BY WANDA FLOYD
There is almost nothing in the world that can compare to the love between a father and a daughter. He is her hero, her best friend, her playmate, her teacher and her confidant. I believe in most cases a girls first love is her daddy. And in her eyes, he can do no wrong. It brings a smile to my face just thinking about it. I absolutely adored my daddy. So much so that it kind of made my mom a little jealous.
Well, he was my daddy. I used to climb on his lap and play patty cake. My daddy took me to the park. My daddy bought all of my dolls. My daddy purchased my bike, skates and everything else I wanted to play with. He even purchased Black, Barbie-like doll named “Wanda”.
I can laugh now, but back then, I was convinced he had that doll made
especially for me. Why? Because I knew my daddy loved me.
What convinced me most of my fathers love was the way he spoke to me. His words were always soft, gentle yet powerful. They made my heart melt. His words were affirming. Which is amazing because one of my love languages is affirmation.
My daddy was a southern man. Full of kindness and hospitality. So growing up, he made sure to come in my room every morning and say, “good morning.” If he were in a fantastic mood that day, he’d come in, kiss me on my forehead and sing, ” good morning to you, good morning to you. Good morning dear Wanda, good morning to you!’
The older I got, the more embarrassing that became. Some days my daddy, who grew an assortment of roses in the backyard, would cut a few roses, put them in a glass and place them on my dresser before I would wake up. Each time I saw them I would run and find him, kiss him and hug his neck and say, “thank you daddy. They are so pretty!” He would reply, “just like you my baby.” A fathers words to his children are very
important. Especially to his daughter.
Proverbs 18:21 states, The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat it’s fruit. Words aren’t just sounds. They possess power. Let’s examine the power of wordsWords entertain, words deceive, nurture, nurse, sustain and maintain.
Words can cause one to harbor resentment. Words can cause one to feel or cause you to go along with. Words can change your countenance. As I stipulated earlier, they have POWER!
God formed and framed the world with His words. He spoke the world into being by the power of His words. (Hebrews 11:3).
So if we refer back to Proverbs 18:21, knowing that God honors the words that come out of your mouth, imagine the power given to a father to use words to speak into his children’s life…..his daughters life.
As a parent, you can do great harm to your child and that harm can follow them throughout life. I read an article written by a gentleman who had a prison ministry. Most of the prisoners shared with him how either their mother or father hurt them deeply with their words. When our children make us mad or disappoints us, it’s easy to let our feelings and emotions get the best of us. But we must be careful not to speak hurtful, negative things over our children carelessly.
speaks on the condition of your heart and how it affects your
words. “For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.
When I was 16, my mother passed. She had a heart attack and went into
a coma. The doctors determined that the machines were basically
keeping my mother alive and gave my father the great task of deciding
what to do. My father left the decision up to me. Yes I was a “daddy’s
girl”, but I loved my mommy!! I told my daddy that I didn’t want her
to live like that. I told him, ” let’s pull the plug, if God wants her to live, then He will take over once the machines stop.”
They cut off the machines, and removed all the wires and I watched my mommy take her last breath. My daddy told me that he was proud of me and I’d made the right decision. Not long after that the weight of my mothers death began to take a toll on me. I dropped out of school. My father did everything he could to convince me to go. Nothing worked. I tried, but it just didn’t work. One day I over heard my father and my brother
discussing me and the other girls in the neighborhood that were my age. They were graduating and I wasn’t. And I heard my father exclaim, “do you know how embarrassing this is? She will never be nothing! Never!! I ran off crying and those words resonated in my ears far into adulthood.
“There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise bring healing.” My father had no idea what affect his words had on me that day. I understand now that my father spoke out of hurt, pain and a grieving heart. But when it comes to
your children, your must chose your words wisely.
James 3:10 ” Out of the same mouth comes praise and cursing.” James states this shouldn’t be. Months before, my father praised me, told me he was proud of me.
Later he stated that I would never be anything.
Even though at the tIme I wasn’t displaying behavior worthy of those words, my fathers
words of affirmation towards me should’ve never changed. He had the power to speak life into me. God would’ve honored his words. My father could’ve spoken LIFE into my meaningless life. For I died with my mother. And my fathers words dug the gravehe enemy intended for my fathers words to keep me bound, depressed, hopeless and full of unforgiveness. But at 17 years of age I knew God.
Jesus Christ was my strong tower. The scriptures say that the
righteous run into and are safe. At my roughest moments I would sing
to my savior (Words). My songs to the Lord got me through. God healed my heart and I forgave my father. God renewed our relationship. At 25,I announced to my father that I was getting married. He was so excited about giving me away.
Although he was in the early stages of Alzheimer’s, he knew that was his job as my father. As he walked me down the isle he looked at me and said, I’m proud of you my beautiful baby girl.” And once again he was my hero, my teacher, my confidant, my best friend. His words made my heart melt.